Dear Future Students,
First of all, congratulations! Whether you have decided to accept the offer or not, you have been recognized as a potential student, and the university truly believes you have what it takes to be here. Your hard work has paid off, and I am sure you are as excited to start your brand new life as I was last year. Or maybe you are terrified, which is something all of us go through. So I want to start off by telling you that there isn't a "right" feeling you are supposed to feel, it's okay to feel worried and anxious, and don't be afraid to talk about what you're going through with someone you trust. Please remember that you are not obligated to feel excitement only.
Coming here, you must have a lot of expectations. You might have come here because of the reputation of the school academics, or because you want to make a lot of new friends. Maybe you want to start building up a fantastic resume for future job prospects. Whatever the reason is, don't worry about losing your way! It definitely gets stressful sometimes when you feel swamped by homework, and the loneliness that sneaks up on us when we can't seem to find the people we want to be friends with. But know that there are many people who want to and can guide you toward the path you want. Talk to a counselor. Join a club. Give your family a call. Whatever it is, remember that this isn't you against the world. There are so many people on your side.
You may be wondering if all those myths about university are true as well. Will my grades really drop by 15% to 20%? Will the people here really drink and party all the time? Do I have to become best friends with the people I meet during orientation week? How do I avoid Freshmen 15, or is that just a given? Trust me, I asked myself all those questions as well. While some of the myths do hold true to some extents, you don't need to let those define you.
Grade drops are common, but don't expect the worst, believe in yourself as well. You don't need to pressure yourself into drinking and partying if that's not what you want; there will be many people who agree with your lifestyle, whether it is occasional drinking or complete abstinence. Don't beat yourself up just yet if you don't automatically become best friends with people you meet during orientation week. There are four years of university, after all, and that one week is such a small portion of your university life. And I have to admit that weight gain is very possible, but there are many recreational facilities on campus that can help you with your exercise. There are many many more myths, but know that there aren't the framework of your university life. You get to decide what it will be like.
And if you haven't decided if this school is even the one you want to go to, don't worry. Maybe each school does have different reputation, but from what I have gathered from my own and my friends' experience, there are a lot of commonalities of university life everywhere. You'll meet people you like and don't like, take classes that you enjoy and find challenging, and most importantly, you'll grow as you learn to adapt to a different life. This will happen at any university, and remember that you are not making a life decision here. Plenty of people transfer to a different university when they feel that the original one isn't the right fit for them, and that is perfectly normal. So whether or not you end up choosing our school, don't be afraid of making the "wrong" choice; this isn't the end all, be all and I 100% believe that you will do well everywhere.
The end of August is still a few months away, and I know it is hard to process and imagine the future at university now that you guys are about to make what feels like the most important decision of your life. Like me a year ago, you guys are probably looking at advice of any kind and hoping that university will be the best experience of your life. But I want you to remember that no matter what happens, there are so many people who will support any decision you make. Also keep in mind that as comforting or maybe intimidating the advice you see everywhere are, you are the only one who get to define what your new life will be like. There is no way to be certain what your new life will be like except that it will be completely different from the one now, so enjoy the last few months of high school with your friends and family. If I do get the honor of meeting you all this fall, I promise you that this will be the most unforgettable experience you will ever have, and that everyone here can't wait to guide you through these four years of firsts and experiences.
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