Someone may want to graduate college early, obtain their dream job before they graduate, get married in their 20’s and have kids in their 30’s, but everything in life may not go as planned. No matter how much you plan for something, it won’t always turn out the way you want it to. In other words, this isn’t Burger King: you can’t always have things your way. Life is like a roller coaster and you may never know what’s going to hit you. Below are six things to do when things don't go exactly as planned.
As soon as something doesn't go your way, it's always good to evaluate things and figure out why things didn't go as planned. Ask yourself some basic questions. What was the problem? What did you do that went wrong during the process? What other options do you have now? It's always good to retrace your steps and move forward to see what could be done now. Just take about 10-15 minutes to evaluate your situation. Even write things down if needed.
2. Talk to someone.
Someone always needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to. Expressing how you feel in regards to your situation to others can help. Nobody should ever keep things bottled up inside of themselves. Whether you talk to a friend, significant other, professor or family member, it's just always good to let out those emotions. Usually, when you talk to others, they end up giving you advice about the situation that could help you in the long run. Whatever they say may even have you evaluate things again. You never know!
Usually when things don't go your way, there's some built up anger. So no one gets hurt or offended by your words, go to the gym to workout. Release all of the built up anger inside. Start with some stretching, cardio and end with maybe jogging around the block. While your adrenaline and blood pressure is up you can use this time to be in the gym. Once you're done, you will feel better and just might feel like a new you!
After a great workout, meditation can be very relaxing. It can help relieve stress and take your mind off of things. For instance, if you are trying to find yourself and don't know what to major in, meditation can help you find your inner you and peace. People tend to go to other options like smoking and drinking but meditation is a more natural and healthier way to relieve pent-up stress. Just turn on some nice, soft, mellow music and take a bubble bath while meditating.
5. Start from scratch.
When things don't work out at first, you should always try again. Go back to the drawing board and figure out exactly how you are going to do things differently. You can plan things out by yourself or with a few friends to help guide you. Which they can give you their opinions/feedback on things. Also, try to make short term goal(s) that can lead up to the long term goal(s) you are trying to achieve. You have to take things one step at a time.
6. Do you.
Sometimes things may not have worked out because they weren't of our best interest. What you had planned before could have been something you didn't want to do at all. That's why things didn't work out. You probably didn't put any effort into it, because that's not what you desire. For instance, at times it can be hard because your parents may want you to become a lawyer or doctor, but in reality, you just want to become a psychologist. You have to do you and remember you are doing things for your future. You are in college for your future, not your parents'!
At the end of the day, life is what you make it. Everything in life doesn’t run smoothly or have the best outcome, yet you must keep pushing. Make the right decisions, create other plans (especially when it comes to everything including your career choice), be ready to conquer anything and learn to say no. Don’t let your parents destroy your shine and dreams. Do what’s best for you!