Whether you are absolutely loving college or having a slightly harder time, going home for breaks is a universally exciting prospect. You are reunited with your family, your high school friends and most importantly your bed and clean shower. Obviously, the topic of a lot conversations is the big life change you just experienced−college.
When you aren't having the best time, hearing the dreaded question "How's College?" can fill you with enough fear to make you just want to run away. You don't want to lie and pretend it's amazing (even though that may sometimes be the easiest answer), but you also don't want to be negative or bring down the mood. I have broken down how to answer the dreaded question by targeting the key groups who seem to be most curious about your college experience.
Parents. You were so excited to get away from them and live out your freedom in college, yet you cried like a baby the second they left. Your parents will be the single largest support system for you throughout this experience, so make sure you are honest with them. I know sometimes it is easier to just act as though everything is fine because you know they already have enough to worry about. But to be completely honest, worrying about you is kind of their job. They want nothing more than for you to be happy so you have to confide in them so they can help you achieve this happiness.
2. Family Friends
Family friends and extended family members are a tricky group when it comes to responding to the constant "So are you just loving college?" or "College was the best four years of my life, how's it going?" Although it is all rooted in kindness and genuine interest, sometimes it is just easier to deflect these questions. Maybe respond with "I'm adjusting but hopeful" or if you aren't even up for that, a simple "I'm happy to be home." They don't need to know the ins and outs of your college life so don't feel like you have to open up−especially if you think their advice will end in a lecture about how much you should be loving college or just them reminiscing about their days as a TKE frat brother.
3. Best Friends
Your best friends stressed with you over applications, celebrated when you were accepted and cried when you had to say goodbye−they deserve to know how you are really feeling. Now I'm not saying you have to tell all eight friends in your group chat just how difficult it has been, but opening up to a couple of your absolute closest friends can help. Remember they are also freshman and are going through a similar experience as you. They can help shed light on things they are also struggling with or maybe open up your eyes to different types of colleges that you may find more enjoyable.
4. Other Friends
Reuniting with you high school classmates is both fun and overwhelming. It's a mix of pledging horror stories, best and worst of dining hall experiences and battles over who has the wildest parties. When everyone is seemingly loving college you can feel like a little bit of a downer if you respond to the "How's college?" question with a (realistic) negative answer, so you don't have to. Simply say "Good! What about you?" and I promise they will talk for hours about their new sisters and the hot guy who sits in front of them in Writing 10.
Remember these are just suggestions that have worked for me, it is completely up to you to decide who you feel comfortable confiding in!
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